## Key Takeaways – Stop “vibes-based” vetting. Run OPSEC: define what you’re protecting, identify likely threats, find your vulnerabilities, then deploy countermeasures. – Treat dating like threat modeling: you’re not judging character—you’re mapping attack vectors (love-bombing, future-faking, financial parasitism, coercive control) against your assets. – Use data minimization + staged disclosure: the fastest way to

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## Key Takeaways – Treat vetting as OPSEC: define what you’re protecting, map likely threats, find your vulnerabilities, then deploy countermeasures—systematically, not emotionally. – Run data minimization + staged disclosure: you earn access to your address, routines, finances, and social graph in phases, not on date one. – Verify identity and narratives early (spoofing/tampering): cross-reference

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## Key Takeaways – Treat vetting like OPSEC: define what you’re protecting (assets), map likely attack vectors, then run countermeasures—before you get emotionally invested. – Your checklist isn’t a vibe test; it’s data minimization + staged disclosure + boundary tripwires that force clarity and expose coercion early. – Assume platforms are hostile terrain: most apps

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